I will often find myself in conversations with other ladies who, upon finding out we home school say, "I could never do that!". Generally after they make that statement, it is followed by something like, "My kids would drive me crazy" or "I don't have the patience". And if you've home schooled for any length of time, I am sure you've heard similar. The funny thing is that they do not realize that I am incapable of having the necessary patience outside of the grace of God; sometimes I feel like my kids are going to drive me crazy (but don't tell them that!). Guess what else? Sometimes....often....I too feel like I can't do it! See? We are not so different.
Homeschooling moms are not born with some special super power. We aren't perfect. Most of us do not possess a natural ability to do it all. We get tired and cranky and selfish....just like any other mom. So, what sets the homeschooling mom apart from the moms who "can't"? There is a quote that has been attributed to several different people that states: Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. Homeschooling moms have taken the plunge and determined that something is more important to them than any fear they may have. They are courageous women who do not often feel very courageous and I am so thankful to be a part of such a group.
So mama, how do I know that you can carry on one more day? How can I be certain that you can keep on keeping on? What keeps YOU, the homeschooling mom, going through illness, stress, learning struggles, money woes and opposition from all sides?
Well, the godly homeschooling mama knows a few things....
- She knows that Jesus said, I CAN do ALL things through Christ which strengtheneth me (Phil 4:13) and Jesus also said My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness...(2 Cor. 12:9) In some ways, we should rejoice when we feel like we can't because it is only then that we can feel God's strength carry us and partake of His grace.
- She has a sincere desire to keep her children as unspotted and sheltered from the world as possible and knows that it is futile to fight to keep the world out of her home only to send her children into it for 8+ hours a day. I heard a quote that said that if you are going to send your children to Caesar, do not be surprised when they come home acting like Romans.
- She honestly and truly delights in her children! Sure, sometimes they get a little noisy and they may interfere with her social calendar but she knows that spending a quantity of time with her children is probably even more important than spending quality time.
- She is keenly aware that these precious years of childhood are fleeting and not to be wasted.
- She knows that keeping her children's hearts is more important than having the world's passing pleasures.
- Treasures can be found in dirty handprints, homemade notes and quiet heart to hearts and the godly homeschooling mama knows that these things cannot be bought or replaced.
- She knows that there is nothing quite like being there when her child has a "light bulb" moment. When something that she has been trying to learn finally 'clicks' and it makes her heart swell with joy.
- She knows that character is key and that more is caught than taught. She realizes that those whom her child spends the most time with will also hold the most influence on their lives and will be those who her child will want to emulate. Being that person is important to her!
- She knows that fostering family relationships through daily living will pay dividends for a lifetime!
- And beyond all of that, when the tide is going against her, when the kids aren't cooperating, when the "ladies speaker" is telling her she needs me time, the godly mama rests in the knowledge that she is obeying God's Word in the raising of her children. No matter what the devil, the world or fellow "Christians" may try to throw at her, she rests in the simple truth that there is only one set of people ever given the directive to teach and train children.....and that is their parents.
God bless each of you as you follow Him!
(for further encouragement, I just came across this list written by Gena Suarez on the HSB Company Porch. Enjoy!)
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